Eat Pray Love

[Петр и Павел]

эту тему явно надо в женсовет. здесь все залито девичьими слезами. во всех их проявлениях.

[tuda_i_obratno]

залито девичьими слезами. во всех их проявлениях.

Пострадали от проявлений?

[Kate]

Итак, досмотрела кино. Ну, что сказать. Кино интересное, история будет близка для определенного круга людей, но не более. Мне близко. Я нахожусь в такой жизненой точке, что если бы (да кабы) у меня не было responsibilities, я бы с удовольствием сделала что-то подобное. Мой квест был бы другим, но суть поисков от этого бы не поменялись. Но, повторяю, это близко не всем. Кино весьма интересно.

[Kiseta]

[Alusya]

Интересный топик подняла ты, Таня .
С тех пор так много воды утекло. А книжка стала моей настольной .

[Kate]

Big Magic у нее тоже интересное чтиво.

[Kiseta]

Big Magic у нее тоже интересное чтиво.

ага, я оторваться не могла, вот тут отметилась

[elena S.]

he does not look like Bardem at all

[Kiseta]

video

he does not look like Bardem at all

Neither she like Julia Roberts

[elena S.]

she is tall and leggy and a smooth talker
he is just a old bold fart in a hat.
it is nice that they found each other, though

[Kiseta]

Apparently there is no such thing as 'selfish' when it comes to self-care...

Dear Ones -
I hope you'll join me today in celebrating a wonderful holiday, that only comes along once in a lifetime.
Today, May 16, 2016, is National "Liz Gilbert Stops Answering Questions About The Word Selfish" Day.
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For the last ten years, since EAT PRAY LOVE came out, I have been respectfully, carefully, and earnestly answering questions from people about the word "selfish".

For years now, people have been asking me thousands of variations on this question: "Wasn't it selfish for you to go on a spiritual journey?"
(Other manifestations of the question include: "Isn't it selfish of you not to have children?", or "Isn't it selfish for somebody to want to be a writer, instead of having a normal job?" or, "Is it selfish for somebody to want to be a traveler?" or, "Wasn't it selfish for you to get divorced?")
And if you Google my name + the word "selfish" (I won't do it, but you can!) you will see how angry my search for joy made many, many people. You will see lots of people hating on me about my selfishness, my horrid selfishness, to have changed my life, and to have created for myself a new way of walking through the world, insistently chasing the light.

You guys, I have been SO NICE about these questions. For ten years!

I've patiently explained to people my own journey, my own process, and my belief that it's a public service to live your own joy.
I've told people that they don't need to do what I did, or to like me...and that they don't even need to understand or approve; it's all cool, can't we just be friends? After all, my journey is my journey; everyone else's journey is their own business.
I've given examples of people whom my book has helped — as though I have a case to prove, and I need numbers to prove it. As though the only justification for living your life joyfully is if your journey can help others. (Only then, with that proof, might I be off the hook.)
I've explained about how, in the Mandarin language, there are two words for "selfish" — and how one word means "to be greedy or hoarding", and how the other word means "to do something good for yoursellf" — and how not everything we do that is good for ourselves is necessarily greedy or hoarding.

I've gently asked people to look into their own lives, and really question whether or not their martyrdom and unhappines is serving anyone — as my martyrdom and unhappiness once served exactly NOBODY.
I've thrown all the great lines of all the great poets out there — from Whitmans's "Oh joy of my spirit — it is unchained!", to Mary Oliver's "What is it you plan to do with your one wIld and precious life?", to David Whyte's "Anything or anyone that does not bring you alive is too small for you."
I've even tried to show how my journey from depression to joy has involved suffering, in order to make people feel better. ("Don't worry!" I would say, "I was punished with three years of despair and anxiety for leaving that marriage, and I lost a lot of friends and all my money in the divorce, too!" Because some people can only trust joy when it has been earned through sacrifice and pain...and that's a little weird — both that people would want evidence of suffering, or that I would feel obliged to offer it.)

But you guys?
I'm done.
With all love and peace, I am done.

This will be my last mention or discussion or defense of the concept of selfishness, and when people ask me questions about selfishness in the future, I will only say that I'm terribly sorry, but that this word is off my table — for now, and ever onward. We will have to talk about something else, or we can sit in comfortable silence. Or we can even sit in uncomfortable silence — that's OK, too!
I'm at the ocean today. The sun is my buddy, and the sun told me this morning that he is not interested in this topic of conversation anymore. All of my friends at the ocean are done with this topic of conversation. This morning, on a long walk, the Pelicans sailing across the sky in elegant formation, said to me, "Dude, will you please stop answering questions about the word SELFISH?" The starfish I saw floating in the surf was like, "Seriously, Liz. Stop. I'm bored of it. Don't you know any good starfish jokes?" I jumped in the waves and swam and swam with my eyes closed, faithfully trusting my pal the ocean to hold me up, and she said to me, "We have so many bigger things to discuss, darling. Stop talking, so we can begin."
And when I climbed out of the ocean from which we were all born, and I shook off the salty drops, I said to myself, "It is time to shake off that word, too."

Ten years is enough!

So enjoy this beautiful holiday, my loves. I am.

And enjoy your JOY.
I love you all very much,

LG

[Kate]

she is tall and leggy and a smooth talker
he is just a old bold fart in a hat.
it is nice that they found each other, though

Разошлись уже, через 12 лет.

[Kiseta]

she is tall and leggy and a smooth talker
he is just a old bold fart in a hat.
it is nice that they found each other, though

Разошлись уже, через 12 лет.

Dear Ones -

Because I have shared details of my private life with you all so intimately over the years, I feel the need to share with you this recent change in my personal life.

I am separating from the man whom many of you know as "Felipe" — the man whom I fell in love with at the end of the EAT PRAY LOVE journey. He has been my dear companion for over 12 years, and they have been wonderful years. Our split is very amicable. Our reasons are very personal.

At this time of transition, I hope you will respect our privacy. In my heart, I know that you will do so, because I trust that you understand how this is a story that I am living — not a story that I am telling.

I thank you for your love, and for your kindness, and for your continued blessings. Hold us in your thoughts. And I hope you will understand and forgive me if I am a bit absent from social media during this sensitive moment.

Lastly, I wanted to share this poem, written by the poet-of-my-heart Jack Gilbert. This poem has been helping to carry me through this experience. Perhaps it will help some of you, also:

http://bit.ly/29lnk6U

Blessings, and all my love,
LG